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For the last year I've been writing the second book in The Uncivilized Life series, Uncivilized Faith. I've stressed out over every word, metaphor, and story that I've told, and now, just like when you drop your child off at school for the first time, I've let it go. The paperback will be out on Father's Day, June 21st, but if you like to read on Kindle, it's available right now. And if you have Kindle Unlimited it's free for you. Get The Kindle Version Now Here's the back co

Culture has always muddled manhood. Sometimes it works by subtraction, shrinking the role of men until their impact on the world is negligible. Sometimes it takes the more devious route: build a caricature of masculinity, then declare the caricature toxic. The pattern is old. At the dawn of creation, the serpent bypassed Adam and went straight at his wife. And Adam said nothing. Genesis 3:6 says Eve gave some of the fruit to her husband, "who was with her." He wasn't absent.

You've probably heard it your whole life: Be nice. Be polite. Don't make waves. Keep the peace. And somewhere along the way, you started to believe that being a good man meant being a nice man. That strength meant keeping your mouth shut. That leadership meant making everyone comfortable and happy. So you smiled when you wanted to speak. You backed down when you shou ld have stood up. You called it humility. You called it grace. But deep down, you knew something was wrong. Ni

Let me save you six more months of pretending. You already know. You know what God has been nudging you toward. You've known for a while now, maybe years. It showed up as a recurring thought you kept dismissing, a conversation that hit too close, a Sunday sermon that felt uncomfortably personal. You've prayed around it, journaled near it, and had about a dozen internal negotiations with God about the timeline. But you haven't moved. And here's what you tell yourself: you're s

Let me be straight with you. The faith most men were handed growing up was built to keep them comfortable, quiet, and compliant. It was designed to fill seats on Sunday mornings and clear out by noon. It came with nice carpeting, a greeting team, and a message carefully calibrated so nobody left feeling too challenged. And somewhere around 25 or 35 or 45, you looked at all of it and thought: is this really it? You are not wrong for asking that question. In fact, the fact that

The first ever Uncivilized Life Men's Leadership Weekend brought together a diverse age group of 30 men eager to connect, compete, and grow. This event combined outdoor adventure, friendly competition, and powerful conversations that left a lasting impression on everyone involved. From the struggle and laughter of the fishing tournament (nothing over a pound was caught), to the strategic marathon play of poker, and the talks that challenged every guy to become who God called

A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials. — Seneca That line lands like a punch because it’s true. Men aren’t refined in comfort; they’re forged in fire. You want proof? Look at Scripture. James tells us to “count it all joy... when you meet trials of various kinds” because trials produce steadfastness (James 1:2–4). Paul says suffering produces endurance, endurance character, and character hope (Romans 5:3–4). Jesus says, "pick up your cr